How Do You Leave A Church? – “The Art of Giving Away Jewelry”

jewelry box

Genesis 13:8-9
 So Abram said to Lot, ‘Let’s not have any quarrelling between you and me, or between your herdsmen and mine, for we are close relatives.  Is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.’
Lucianne and I have always believed in planting roots in a place. Church hopping is not an option. Celebrating 35 years in this planet, we can proudly say that we have only been members of 3 churches in our lifetime. The first time God took us out of one, was due to immigration purposes, and we had to leave the country. The second time was because God had called us to. We had served our church for 25 years, and God said it was time. We fought, but he kept on giving us confirmations. Here are a few questions: What do we do when God calls us to a new season, a new city, a new job or a new church? Is it really God or is it us? Did we hear God’s voice or our own desires? God doesn’t make mistakes we do. Here is another question: Have we stayed at a specific place and planted deep roots that give fruits? We find ourselves in times in which people lack, commitment and faithfulness. After a year of being in one place, they call it quits using the “Godly excuse” that “God called me to”. The result of this unethical behavior is dividing the body of Christ, and creating many broken bridges and bitter situations. But, How do we mend them? How do we leave a church, in God’s time, without destroying people and causing drama and gossip? The answer to this is found in giving away jewelry.

The Bible says in

 Zechariah 9:16  (ESV)

On that day the LORD their God will save them, as the flock of his people; for like the jewels of a crown they shall shine on his land”

We must understand that God sees his children as Jewels. We all have been called to shine, not just you. We are expensive in God’s eyes. Giving away his only son, to pay for us, was a pretty high price to pay. The same way God is passionate about you, he is passionate about all his children. In the past years my wife and I have practiced the discipline of simplicity. I recommend you reading Richard Foster’s CELEBRATION OF DICIPLINE. A masterpiece! Simplicity at times means, “It’s time to let go”. To let go of possessions, that give us pride, or that steal our focus. We don’t have much, but for us it means giving away clothes, watches, and jewelry.
When God calls us into a new season, is pretty much like giving away expensive jewelry. Lets think about that for a moment. What did that jewelry you had, did for you in the past? Didn’t it made you look good, look better? Didn’t it give you value?
When getting rid of jewelry you always have two options:
 Option 1: You either give it away or
 Option 2: You sell it.

You never throw expensive jewelry away, unless it’s broken. If you can fix it you do, and you keep it, but you never give away something broken.

My pastor always says, “How you exit a season, determines how you enter your next one.” My wife and I choose to give away jewelry. We choose to sow and not sell. Sowing expensive jewelry to someone at times it hurts, because you’ve worn that jewelry for a long time. In the same manner when we are leaving a season we are literally handing our pastors, managers, leaders to other people. We are sowing people to other people. If you can, don’t sell that thing that made you look great in the past, don’t sell that person that gave you value. Bless someone else with them. Honor those people, honor those past jewels. We don’t sell out. We honor the great years of service, of life and ministry together, and those people will continue to shine. If relationships are broken, you must do everything in your power to fix it. If you can’t, it’s ok to throw it away. But before you throw it away, consider giving it to a jeweler. God represents the jeweler. He has more resources to make that piece of jewelry brand new.
When you leave a season, a church, try everything you can to leave through the front door, with your Pastor’s and Leader’s blessing. The only way expensive jewelry leaves your house without your consent, is through an open backdoor or through a window in a thief’s hand.
7 Things to keep in mind:
1. Pray for them
2. It’s a new season, so there is a lot of new things to learn. Be open.
3. Seasons change but Principles don’t. Do not let go of the principles that brought you success.
4. Don’t sell out. Don’t speak negative, murmur, gossip or post on Social Media.
5. Check in once in a while. (If you have not thrown it away)
6. It’s Transition. If there is sin involved, run, otherwise don’t rush. The people of God walked the desert. Running in a desert will kill you.
7. Operate in Peace.
1 Samuel 24:5-6
But then David’s conscience began bothering him because he had cut Saul’s robe. He said to his men, “The Lord forbid that I should do this to my lord the king. I shouldn’t attack the Lord’s anointed one, for the Lord himself has chosen him.”

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